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If someone followed you around all day, criticizing your every move, pointing out your flaws, and doubting your abilities, how long would you tolerate it? Probably not very long. You’d eventually tell them to stop—or to get lost.

But here’s the thing: that voice already exists, and it’s inside your head.

Think about it. Out of everyone in your life, who do you spend the most time talking to? Not your mom, not your partner, not even your best friend. It’s you. And the words you say to yourself, whether you realize it or not, are shaping everything about your life.

Now, imagine if you recorded those thoughts and played them back. What would you hear? Would it sound like encouragement and belief? Or would it sound like a harsh critic, tearing you down and making you feel small?

The way we talk to ourselves matters more than anything. That inner voice can either build you up or slowly chip away at your confidence and your sense of worth. If it’s stuck on a loop of negativity—“You’re not good enough,” “You’re always screwing up,” “What’s the point in even trying?”—then it’s no wonder life feels harder than it needs to be.

But here’s the good news: you control that voice. You’re not stuck with the narrative it’s been telling. You can choose to challenge it, reframe it, and rewrite the story.

What if, instead of saying, “I can’t do this,” your inner voice said, “This is hard, but I’ll figure it out”? What if, instead of saying, “I always fail,” it reminded you, “Every mistake is a step closer to success”?

Your self-talk isn’t just background noise—it’s the script you live by. And if you wouldn’t let someone else talk to you like that, why let your own mind get away with it?

So, start listening to that voice more closely. Notice what it’s saying. And when it starts to tear you down, stop it. Rewrite the story. Speak to yourself the way you’d speak to someone you love—because, at the end of the day, the person you talk to the most is you.

And you deserve to hear something good.